We are in the last two days of our Challenge, and the last area of our 5 area framework for anything you want to manifest, including clarity!
When was the last time something you wanted to have happen went as planned? What about when it didn’t?
One of the last topics we want to bring into focus in our Clarity Challenge is EXPECTATIONS.
We’ve all been told it’s good to have them, and by this definition “a strong belief that something will happen or be the case in the future,” that’s not such a bad thing.
Plus research shows that people having high expectations about the future makes them happier at present.
But when we talk about expectations as, “a belief that someone will or should achieve something,” this is where we can get into trouble.
This amazing article, To Anyone Who Thinks They’re Falling Behind In Life, in the Huff Post, which we have permanently BOOKMARKED says it beautifully:
You don’t get to control everything. You can wake up at 5 a.m. every day until you’re tired and broken, but if the words or the painting or the ideas don’t want to come to fruition, they won’t. You can show up every day to your best intentions, but if it’s not the time, it’s just not the fucking time. You need to give yourself permission to be a human being.
We can’t have control over life events or our creativity, and we are not in charge of DIVINE TIMING.
When we focus on outcomes, something that SHOULD absolutely happen- I will get this assignment done, that task completed, this blog written, this relationship to end with X, we aren’t always present for the PROCESS.
The key is to have clarity in managing expectations and OUTCOMES, and the ability to interpret unexpected negative outcomes in a way that doesn’t trigger doubts about ourselves or our “success.”
Look at a recent “FAILURE” in your life.
Why didn’t it go as planned? Aside from events that were out of your control, were you rushing to an outcome, did you miss information you needed because you were in tunnel vision mode? Did you have all the help you needed, was it really the right time for it to happen?
Now remember a “FAILURE” that happened a longer time ago...and then...when you had that moment of realization when you could said, 'yes, I can see now why that didn’t work out,' or, ‘I’m glad that didn’t happen, because X happened instead.’
Sometimes we don’t get the outcome we want BUT, things happen in Divine timing so we get the lessons we are supposed to get...in order to grow the way we are supposed to grow.
Again from the Huff Post article: We often forget that we are as we are until we’re not. We are the same until we’re changed. We can move that a bit further by putting into place healthy habits and to show up to our lives in a way that fosters growth, but we can’t game timing.
Next time you don’t have an expectation and outcome match up…breathe...then study the outcome you DO get…maybe it’s going to be better than you think.
Until tomorrow…stay Clear!
Susan & Jen
Tomorrow we will be wrapping up our Challenge. And like we have said before, if anything has been coming up for you, fears, doubts, OR inspirations and aha! moments that you need to work through or take to the next level…let’s do that!
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